Postulations

when I observe one change in my marriage two or three years ago I remember one night when I discovered a new readyness in considering HER demands. It was the night when she talked about our daily life and that she had actually to many tasks and work. So she demanded - or better said "postulated" more of a help from my side in several ways. It was no complaining in it, but she did not ask or plead.

I recognized that there was a new tone. My heart was touched with mixed emotions.
First I wanted to flee and reject any commands in this way. It was like "nobody is allowed to give me orders".
Second I suddenly felt a certain deep excitement, a new thrill in her behavier,
as if I felt my entire personality had now to be committed to her. With this little scene I caught a glimpse of our new role -potential in our marriage.
What about simply obey her and surrender to HER will?
It happened regardless of the fact that she would have been totally right when only she would have asked me to help her.
But she did not ask.
She postulated (from) me.
She said that she wanted me to do this and that in the future- like doing the cooking for the kids a bit more often and other things.

It was the first time that she put it this way.
Because she had the natural right to give commands to me like that.
It already became inherent in our relationship. I took the second opportunity of my two possible reactions -by chance and asked what I could do for her. I kept this in mind when it turned out to be difficult for me sometimes.
And happily it worked for me.
SHE likes now from time to time request things far more sternly from me. It works for her better as well.

Just Love

Time goes by so quick when it comes down to November. I don't know why these days vanish so much faster than they did in August.

I am more of the taker than a giver concerning those blogs I like to read.
I beg your pardon, when I read much more blogs than you will notice. It is also so, that I am not so good with my English, as you already might have noticed and it takes me some time to express the more complicated thoughts.
So I try to think simple and be able to write about it. It is a good training. It makes me feel more clear.

Some of my favorite bloggs pointed to another blog called (swtp- she does not like to be mentioned anymore)- just when S. wrote her "final thoughts". I am happy that those words didn't mean that S. has closed her blog yet. But she will. Today I read about the butterfly and her husband and I liked it.

There is an interesting part in S.'s writing, that lets me ask another question: is it true that it is only love which makes a woman explore the submissve nature of her mate?

In her latest (November) Q&A Elise Sutton talks about the submissive nature of any man (more or less developed through his specific biography) . So isn't it the flip side of a couple that the true nature of any woman is to be dominant? Not only because she loves him so much, but (also) because she IS like that if- only the "female power is unleashed"?

Well every womn is different and every couple too. With men I'm not so sure. With men it's more the question of how much (sex, submission), rather than how they are.

Some women are dominant by nature others are giving a sacrifice to her husband, when they dominate him. The sacrifice is not so much that beeing in charge, it is the dealing with those kinky- aspects. Those turn the relationship to a D/s - one, make a kind of play out of it and enhance the skill of service of men extraordinary.

What I really like is what S. said about those wishes "in the draw"...compared with the always heard: "don't dream your life... live your dream".

I like to have something in the draw. Not only because I am to shy to show up anything what's in my head. I don't want HER to put some parts of her camelot in her draw again, only because I'm in a hurry with mine to take them out.
That makes me turn the fantasies into a reality of love and loving submission to my wife.
One day I am good at it and the other day not. One day my wife is kind of a natural egoist (like Helpmate Hubby's wife seemed last Saturday- forgive me hh!) and another day she wants to be the girl protected by her man ... the one with "that gentle heart and that warm laugh" (Sue) - as I can see myself on rare oportunities... and the next time she has more or less of that loving, caring attitude.

It is the living with so many forms of it and thinking about all those aspects- also the hidden ones in the draw, what keeps me alife and makes life pleasurable for me. Keeps me on my way of learning what that is: Just love.