Time goes by so quick when it comes down to November. I don't know why these days vanish so much faster than they did in August.
I am more of the taker than a giver concerning those blogs I like to read.
I beg your pardon, when I read much more blogs than you will notice. It is also so, that I am not so good with my English, as you already might have noticed and it takes me some time to express the more complicated thoughts.
So I try to think simple and be able to write about it. It is a good training. It makes me feel more clear.
Some of my favorite bloggs pointed to another blog called (swtp- she does not like to be mentioned anymore)- just when S. wrote her "final thoughts". I am happy that those words didn't mean that S. has closed her blog yet. But she will. Today I read about the butterfly and her husband and I liked it.
There is an interesting part in S.'s writing, that lets me ask another question: is it true that it is only love which makes a woman explore the submissve nature of her mate?
In her latest (November) Q&A Elise Sutton talks about the submissive nature of any man (more or less developed through his specific biography) . So isn't it the flip side of a couple that the true nature of any woman is to be dominant? Not only because she loves him so much, but (also) because she IS like that if- only the "female power is unleashed"?
Well every womn is different and every couple too. With men I'm not so sure. With men it's more the question of how much (sex, submission), rather than how they are.
Some women are dominant by nature others are giving a sacrifice to her husband, when they dominate him. The sacrifice is not so much that beeing in charge, it is the dealing with those kinky- aspects. Those turn the relationship to a D/s - one, make a kind of play out of it and enhance the skill of service of men extraordinary.
What I really like is what S. said about those wishes "in the draw"...compared with the always heard: "don't dream your life... live your dream".
I like to have something in the draw. Not only because I am to shy to show up anything what's in my head. I don't want HER to put some parts of her camelot in her draw again, only because I'm in a hurry with mine to take them out.
That makes me turn the fantasies into a reality of love and loving submission to my wife.
One day I am good at it and the other day not. One day my wife is kind of a natural egoist (like Helpmate Hubby's wife seemed last Saturday- forgive me hh!) and another day she wants to be the girl protected by her man ... the one with "that gentle heart and that warm laugh" (Sue) - as I can see myself on rare oportunities... and the next time she has more or less of that loving, caring attitude.
It is the living with so many forms of it and thinking about all those aspects- also the hidden ones in the draw, what keeps me alife and makes life pleasurable for me. Keeps me on my way of learning what that is: Just love.
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It's really difficult for many couples to find their way to a LFA relationship because it is such a big change to their existing dynamic. For me it was easy because I was like this before my relationship began and so was he. I think you're wise to be lovingly patient and wait for your wife to find her place. Too many try to push their wives and that often leads to a total abandonment of the LFA concept.
Very warmest wishes for making it all work.
Like Lady Julia and Rook, Alexandra new of our desires on this respect beforehand. We just didn't know that we shared them.
You are clearly a giving and caring man. There are many ways in which to make this real.
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