FLR or LFA.. it is not so important how you call it.
SHE is in charge and she decides what the man has to do and even what kind of a man he presents for her. (Yes, I changed to the better..., a little.)
He is to obey. What happened if he is doing right and what when he is not doing right- it is up to her.
The essence of FLR may not be frightening to a adult woman at all.
But it has to do with a very intense desire of many men. That makes it a little suspicious. Of course there are roots in the childhood. Mother coins both, nop question. But from mother- beeing the whole world to many details ofthe world is a longh journey. And the wife you choose may taste at least different from your mother and that is because of the sexual feeling wich are grown up now.
FLR does -not- have to mean beeing passive for the man at all.
And it is not about just beeing tied up from time to time and receive "punishment" from a wife who serves to him in that way.
It means to be active (...at her leash) and serve to her needs.
And if there is truly a leash to be seen in privacy or even in public :-)) it´s up to Her. (My wife would never like to live with a weak, creeping, passive slave. But she likes comfort, wellness and service and she has no problems of requiring those needs from her husband.)
Now that is all?
FLR is to her benefit and that becomes more and more his benefit. And it seems to work like that, for many couples.
The sexual issues (which are importtnt) are depending on her.
Of course she can enhance the effects by giving the FLR a more sexual and a D/s -touch.
It´s possiblble beeing submitted with or without sex.
(I mention "without sex" because one can see a lot of traditional elder people where the woman is in charge, without stating expressively. And in most cases such a sexual or submissive note is not to be seen. But who knows..)
When ever sexual elements are involved in the FLR, the fascination for the man will increase very much and so be the effects to her benefits.
That is one reason why some women give the FLR in this way a try. (And won´t get back to the former vanilla again)
When there sex is involved, it has to include a way of D/s too....
Because the male sex only is under the rules of the female sex.
Soon she will find out: the best way for her is, when he is under her sexual control, that means particulary denied:
-so he stays attentive to her needs
-so he tends better to obey and worship her.
- and they communicate- may be for the first time: more deeply and reach the "darksides" of the male (and female...) fantasies- and from now they can perhaps be open with those and handle them.
It is something that they both might like. Yes, I think many women and men would love it, if only the outward appearance of FLR - LFA, femdom etc. would be more agreeable.
Lady Julia wrote in her comment (Thank You!) "There are so many advantages for both the man and the woman when living this sort of lifestyle. There's greater harmony in the home, the woman receives so much more positive attention from her husband, he's more helpful, and so on."
I believe she is absolutely right. If only people knew.
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I like much of what you say, especially this:
"WLR does (not) have to mean being passive for the man at all. And it is not about just being tied up from time to time and receive "punishment" from a wife who serves to him in that way.
It means to be active (...at her leash) and serve to her needs."
A man definitely does not have to be passive to be submissive. He can be strong and still serve her.
The man does indeed receive from this relationship too. It isn't all one person giving and the other taking. What he receives isn't always as easy for an outsider to see, but he does receive. Submissive men like being controlled. Some need it. In a WLR, that need or desire is met. They also generally feel at least some sexual pleasure or arousal from their interactions with their partner. Even if they aren't allowed to ejaculate for long periods of time, they still receive sexual pleasure - it is just sometimes different than the way he received it a vanilla relationship. He often receives much more positive attention from his wife. It's not for everyone, certainly, but for those couples that make it work, it's a wonderful relationship dynamic.
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